Its really amazing how ladies fear the
possibility of remaining unmarried for a long time stretching into their
late twenties and thirties.
I have seen countless number of naija
spinsters visit many prayer houses to seek spiritual guide and advice
just to be a mrs and while so many will quickly come out to say they are
unperturbed,the truth is that deep inside of them they hope that they
just find the “right man” fast enough and start raising a family before
reaching their menopause age.
Many ladies do not need prayer and
fasting and in most cases,there is no spiritual attack from anywhere but
these ladies are their own pitfalls and the simple truth is that 90% of
unmarried ladies in their late 20s and 30s have no business still
remaining single.
Considering the present global socio
economy siituations expecially in a country like ours,here are 5 very
vital questions to ask yourself as a lady and the more you give a NO to
each of these 5 questions the harder it may be for you to get a man to
marry you.
1.Can you start a life with a man in one room ?:
Many ladies have boyfriends who live in
this type of apartment and infact they have spent some nights with him
in that same one room apartment and the guy has lost count of how many
times he has scr*wd you in any imaginable ways but when it comes to
marriage you will foolishly say you can’t marry into one room apartment.
Sorry is your second name and i strongly
pity you.Most men who own mansions today started their lives in one
room so if you are ok being scr*wd in one room but you can not marry
same man living in one room then you are not only clueless but foolish
and be ready to be dumped after he has really had you to his fullness.
2.Can you marry a struggling man who has no regular job?:
Oh i can imagine some ladies answering
LAI! LAI!,MBA NUNU! GOD FORBID and so on to this particular question but
please let me ask you”why date a struggling guy or allow him srw you at
will yet cant marry him?” strange and foolish i must say.
It is important to know that as long as
that man is not lazy,his break through will come and must come.How many
ladies have given up an affair because they feel the guy has no job just
to realize a year latter that he is gainfully employed or he has
started a profitable business and they start feeling bad for not being
patient enough.
Ok what is even the guaranty that the
ones who have good jobs or business can not experience a crazy turn
around? many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven
man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job
rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them
financially independent while the guy has enough space to pursue his
dreams.Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see
today have passed through a struggling phase.
3.Can you have a very low budget wedding?:
Now i want every reasonable lady reading this to understand that marital union and marriage ceremony are 2 different things.
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Most times when you hear words like “my
guy is not ready yet for marriage” what this simply implies is that the
guy is NOT READY FOR A BIG MARRIAGE CEREMONY and not that he is not
mentally,psychologically and emotionally ready but because our young
ladies are overwhelmed with that one day celebration,they will never
ever plan any wedding with a man who does not have the money to give
them a flamboyant wedding and this is one major reasons why many ladies
remain single for a very long time.
Have you looked around to see many
graduates still struggling in their 30s with no assurance that a job or
business will come up tomorrow? Are you among the myopic ladies who get
carried away by a flamboyant wedding ceremony rich parents organize for
their children?
Who says you can’t have a marriage
ceremony with N50,000 budget where a man pays the bride price and
proceed to the registry with you and when the money starts coming in you
two can do another big time wedding ceremony so why put yourself in
bondage of having a compulsory big time wedding before you can be a mrs?
Why are you giving that guy a good reason to continue using you,saying
he is not ready for marriage ceremony but doing all the imaginable
things a man will do to a wife on you.
For my igbo sisters i will advice you to
appeal to the elders at home to understand that the fact that few of
you are lucky to have a guy pay so much or spend so much on a marriage
ceremony against all odds does not erase the fact that countless number
of Igbo girls are been courted but not married in a timely manner due to
the high expenses involved.
4.Can you marry a man who loves you but is not your preferred spec?:
Yes there is nothing absolutely wrong in
having a picture of who you want and while some ladies are very
fortunate to find such,many have lived in a fantasy world hoping to meet
that man who has those qualities they dream of just to wait and wait
until they become old waiting for an “ideal man”
In marriage there is nothing like a bad
or good choice neither do we have an ideal or non ideal man but its
about your choice.Many ladies want a tall,cute,rich.GOD fearing,romantic
guy and its so amazing how some ladies will never shift ground and when
that short caring and loving guy comes their way they hush him and
start running after a prince charming that feels nada for them,what a
shame.
Stop having this myopic belief that
there is an ideal man out there,no man has it all and all you need to
look out for is a man who truly desires and deserves you. If you like
keep waiting and screening until you become the object of screening
yourself. Be wise.
5.Can you marry a man with a wide age gap to you:
This is one of the most dangerous
mistakes many ladies make. For crying out loud, except a lady just wants
to play around,i do not see why a teenage girl will be dating a fellow
teenager or a lady in her early twenties will be dating a guy of just a
year or two older than her because when she eventually becomes ripe for
marriage, in most cases this guy is still jumping around and fulfilling
his sexual fantasies.
Yes age is nothing but a number but in
most cases, ladies who date or court guys with wide age gaps like 8years
or more tend to end up as a wife to the guy while most ladies who at
their young ages started an affair with guys of close age proximity are
usually left heart broken latter in life because most guys in the 20s
are probably still playing around and not even psychologically ready for
marital union.
So when i hear a 23 year old lady
telling a guy in his 30s that he is too old for her i just laugh at her
ignorance. If you are a teenager reading this or a lady in your early
twenties,i will advice that except you just want to play around,you
should date or court guys with wide age gap to avoid had i known.YES
THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS to this but most times my assertion holds true.
I hope these write up makes sense to those who want to see sense in it.
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