UK based Nigerian Gay rights activist, Bisi Alimi continues the countdown to his wedding while recalling the very first time he tried on women clothing and how liberating it now is to him. Read below.
Day 13 of 30 days to my wedding of 30 things to be grateful for. The first time I put on a dress was at university of Lagos. I was drafted to act a role at the last minute as the character did not turn up. I am sure @denrele_edun will remember this event.
We were acting for Atiku’s wife while she was visiting. Many times after that, I have dressed up. I dressed up hosting many gay parties in#Lagos. In 1999, as a very young 24years old, I won the glamorous Miss Gay Lagos. It was an honour. As a man (yes, just in case some of you are confused) wearing a dress and heels and stockings is liberating for me. I am not a woman and I do not want to be a woman. When I wear dresses, I wear them as a man and this is why it is very liberating for me. It connects with my vulnerability. As an African man, there is an expectation of what it means to be a man. Wearing a dress is also a statement of fuck you to patriarchy. I don’t do conformity. I live in my head
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